His Words

Wanting “clarity” when what you really need is “trust”

“Real men don’t get lost.” This was one of those rules—like “real men don’t hit girls,” “real men don’t eat quiche,” “real men don’t cry”—that got pounded into me (and most of my friends) from an early age. Older guys will remember some of the corollaries to the “don’t get lost” decree. If you do manage to lose your way, don’t—for God’s sake—stop and…

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What to do when the problem is you

As a child I loved watching Saturday morning cartoons: Hanna-Barbera, Looney Tunes, Merrie Melodies. What’s not to love about ridiculous characters—mostly personified animals—running around, creating havoc, and one-upping their antagonist/best friend? Frequently, two critters would end up in an actual wrestling match (although in cartoon world this looks like a cloud of dust spinning across the dirt with occasional glimpses of paws,…

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Pulled to Safety By Ashley Judd

Anyone who knows me well is aware of my greatest fear—driving off of a bridge and plummeting into the water. A few years ago, my son Walter even bought me a “Hammer of Life.” This tiny but effective tool will enable me to either smash my window for escape if the dreaded should ever occur…or beat myself senseless and die in…

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A Watched Mailbox Never Boils

We all grew up with them. We all cocked our heads to one side, puzzled at their meanings while grayer heads nodded with knowing understanding. Older, wiser relatives tossing out “pearls of wisdom” into our tiny swine ears: “A bird in the hand is with two in the bush.” “Measure twice, cut once.” “Don’t count your chickens before they’re hatched.” One…

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